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100 Questions & Answers About Life After Breast Cancer
$ 21.95
Almost 200,000 cases of breast cancer are diagnosed in the U.S. each year; virtually all of the women who undergo treatment have questions about intimacy, sexuality, and relationships.
100 Questions & Answers About Life After Breast Cancer: Sensuality, Sexuality, Intimacy was written to provide authoritative answers for women and their partners. The authors, Michael Krychman, Susan Kellogg, and Sandra Finestone, are female sexuality and breast cancer physicians. The book offers encouragement and reassurance to those struggling with the physical and emotional repercussions of this disease.
230-page paperback book
Manufacturer: Dr. Michael Krychman
Who Should Consider this Product
Choose this book if you, a partner, or a friend are rebuilding a sense of sensual self and relationships after breast cancer.
Why we chose it
We know that while breast cancer can occur much earlier, it's more common among us midlife women. Two of the authors also have served on the MiddlesexMD medical advisory board, so we know we share an interest in helping women maintain sexuality for life.
Things we like
An invaluable guide for women and their partners
Almost Naked Personal Lubricant
$ 8.99
A naturally organic lubricant formulated for intimacy and comfort
Infused with a touch of lemon and vanilla, Good Clean Love Almost Naked Personal Lubricant is organic, aloe-based, and lightly flavored to enhance your love life naturally. It's recommended by medical professionals across the nation, who know they can trust Good Clean Love to deliver a 100-percent vegan, petrochemical-free, glycerin-free, and paraben-free product. It's made with 95-percent organic ingredients.
Who should consider this product
Women (and men) who want an organic personal lubricant. Rated 91 by SkinSAFE; contains food grade flavor.
Why we chose it
It's aloe-based, which makes it especially good for those with sensitive skin.
Things we like
- Natural ingredients
- No parabens, glycerin, or other ingredients that aren't healthful
- Safe for use with condoms and silicone toys
Ingredients
Organic aloe barbadensis leaf juice, xanthan gum, agar, potassium sorbate, sodium benzoate, sodium lactate, lactic acid, natural flavors
Directions
Apply lubricant generously to both partners. Reactivate with a few drops of water (or a wet kiss).
Aloe Cadabra
$ 10.95
As its name suggests, Aloe Cadabra is a personal lubricant that is based on 95% organic aloe.
A sensually smooth lubricant, Aloe Cadabra is aloe based and enriched with vitamin E. It's free of parabens, glycerin, and petroleum products, so it can promote healing as it enhances pleasure and comfort. In fact, the 95-percent aloe means it's a good moisturizer for any part of the body! Made from food-grade ingredients, this lubricant is safe to ingest and safe for use with condoms, toys, or massagers. Available in a 2.5 oz. bottle and set of 7 individual packets.
Who Should Consider this Product
Why we chose it
Things we like
Ingredients
Amielle Vaginal Dilator Kit
$ 69.99
The cones in this dilator set twist and lock onto the handle for easy insertion and removal.
The Amielle dilators range in size from .63” to 1 1/2” for progressive vaginal dilation therapy. The smallest cone is 2¾” long without the handle; the largest is 6¼” long before attaching to the handle. Each cone has a silky-smooth finish and a slight taper for easy transition between sizes. Made of medical-grade hard plastic, they can be thoroughly cleaned and are nontoxic and latex-free. Carry/storage bag is included.
Manufacturer: Owen Mumford
Who Should Consider this Product
Choose to use dilators if you have difficulty with penetration. The cause may be vaginismus (muscle spasms causing vaginal tightness), medical treatment or surgery that has narrowed or shortened the vagina, or menopause, which can itself narrow or shorten the vagina.
Why we chose it
These dilators are firm enough to be easy to insert, and the range of sizes is practical for regaining vaginal capacity.
Things we like
- Non-latex materials, free of BA and phthalates
- High-quality, medical-grade plastic
- Instruction manual enclosed, although we recommend getting personal advice from your health care provider
Materials Description
Plastic
Balance Moisturizing Personal Wash
$ 13.99
A gentle moisturizing intimate cleanser that supports vaginal health
This personal wash is formulated to match a healthy vaginal acidity and salinity for a healthy vaginal environment. When in balance, vaginal flora protect from discomfort and infection. Made of soothing botanical extracts, it's free of harsh soaps and chemicals, 100-percent vegan and petroleum- and paraben-free.
Who should consider this product
Women concerned about pH balance and vaginal health.
Why we chose it
We like Good Clean Love's approach to product development, focusing on natural ingredients and healthy body chemistry.
Things we like
- Free of harsh soaps and cleansers, petroleum- and paraben-free
- 100-percent vegan
Directions
Apply generously and lather genital tissues. Rinse well. If irritation occurs, discontinue use and seek medical advice.
Ingredients
Water, sodium cocoamphoacetate, glycerin, lauryl glucoside, sodium cocoyl, glutamate, sodium lauryl glucoside, carobxylate, cocamidopropyl hydtroxysultaine, coco-glucoside, glyceryl oleate, lactic acid, aloe barbadensis leaf juice, mahonia, aquifolium (Oregon grape) root extract, hydrastis canadensis (goldenseal) extract, allium sativum (garlic) bulb extract, calendula officinalis flower extract, lavandula angustifolia (lavender oil), potassium sorbate, sodium benzoate
Better Than I Ever Expected
Sold Out - $ 16.95
Sexuality advocate and fitness professional advocate Joan Price provides a highly readable overview of the issues facing mid-life women as they consider—and live—full lives.
Topics include body image, exercise, relationships, re-entering the dating world, and accommodating the physical changes that come with menopause. True to its subtitle, the book contains straight talk, in a conversational tone that's easy to read. The stories and quotes from women like us make it easier to resist stereotypes of older women as sexless!
Who Should Consider this Product
Why we Chose it
BFIT Classic Vaginal Weights
$ 15.99
Designed to strengthen pelvic muscles, this is a smart and playful device intended to grow with you.
A workout you can look forward to! This Kegel tool is made of nonporous silicone that's body-safe. There are two 0.85-ounce (24 grams) weighted silicone balls (1.4 inch or 3.5 cm diameter) and one single and one double harness included. This gives you the option of using one weight or two at the same time, depending on your pelvic floor starting point. You can, of course, also use them in any combination for the sexy sensations created. Waterproof, easy to clean, and accompanied by instruction booklet.
The single harness is 3.8 inches (9.6 cm) long; the double harness is 5.5 inches (14 cm) long.
Manufacturer: BSwish
Who should consider this product
BFIT Classic Vaginal Weights are an option for women who would like to increase pelvic floor muscle tone with targeted Kegel exercises. A strong pelvic floor prevents incontinence and strengthens orgasm.
Why we chose it
We know some women prefer the feel of silicone, and we liked the simplicity and flexibility of this option.
Things we like
- Body-safe, nonporous silicone
- Flexible to use; two harnesses mean you can increase weight resistance as you develop muscle tone
- Easy to clean well
Directions
Read and follow enclosed instructions. For additional instruction on doing Kegel exercises for pelvic tone, also follow the link below.
Do Kegel Exercises, Perhaps with an Exercise Tool
Cabin Fever Kit
$ 109.95
We've got a cozy cure for Cabin Fever.
Curl up with the one you love! We've collected some products you can use to turn up the heat.
Start with the Burn massage candle, from Maude. Made with skin-softening jojoba and soybean oils, this hand-poured massage candle is blended with warming notes of amber, cedar leaf, lemongrass, tonka bean, and medjool date and made with a 100% cotton, lead-free wick and cruelty-free, vegan ingredients. Like our other massage candles, it melts into a delightful, warmed massage oil, providing scent, heat, and sensation.
Sliquid Organics Sensations is a water-based warming lubricant, infused with menthol. And the Kip vibrator, from Dame Products, has an ergnomic design and a tip designed for sensation where you want it. It's petite, at only 3.75 inches long, and a unique shape that makes it an attractive first vibrator or addition to a collection. It recharges via a magnetic USB connection. Packaged in a purple organza gift bag.
Manufacturer: Assembled by MiddlesexMD
Why We Chose It
We selected these products with the season in mind! The Kip is a novel and completely function shape, a warming lubricant can dispel the winter doldrums, and a massage candle encourages skin-to-skin contact during these bundled-up days.
Celesse
$ 49.95
With a specially curved massage point for focused internal stimulation, the Celesse is fully waterproof.
At nearly 8 inches long, the Celesse provides extra reach for external or internal stimulation. Six vibration patterns and 16 variable speeds are controlled with 3 easy-to-use and lockable buttons. Powered by 2 AAA batteries, the Celesse, at 120 Hz, is among the most powerful battery-operated vibrators. Fully waterproof, it's made of body-safe silicone and ABS and includes storage pouch.
Manufacturer: Lelo
Who Should Consider this Product
As a mid-size vibrator, the Celesse might be chosen by either the beginner or the more experienced user, for solo or partner play. Its tip is designed especially for internal stimulation, and the waterproof feature expands the possibilities.
Why we chose it
With a passion for design and engineering, Lelo is among the most respected makers of "pleasure objects." All of the products designed and manufactured by Lelo are outstanding in safety, quality, design, and functionality.
Things we like
Waterproof
Powerful enough for midlife women
Body-safe materials
Materials
FDA-approved silicone and ABS
Directions
Carefully read the owner's manual for full instructions. Remember to have 2 AAA batteries on hand!
Further Help
Chiavaye Oil
$ 29.98
An all-natural, vegan oil that may be used with a partner during intimacy or for individual moisturizing.
As well as having a pleasant, silky, light feel and no "sticky factor," Chiavaye Oil is fragrance-free, hormone-free, and all natural. It doesn't stain clothing or bedding. The oils and formulation were selected for nourishment and hydration, and for their anti-inflammatory, antibacterial, anti-fungal, and antioxident properties.
Made from natural oils and vitamin E, Chiavaye Oil can be used for more than sexual health; some women have benefited from using it for skin conditions, chafing, and brittle nails.
The oil is packaged in a UV-protective black glass bottle to maintain product purity over time.
Manufacturere: Chiavaye
Who should consider this product?
Women looking for a silky feel for moisturizing during and between intimacy, especially if they're seeking simple, natural ingredients. In addition to countering vaginal dryness, it may alleviate or mitigate itching or burning.
Why we chose it
Chiavaye has received positive reviews for its holistic approach to sexual health. Like us at MiddlesexMD, they're woman-powered and have a mission of making sexual health about health and not about X-rated sex merchandise.
Things we like
- Versatile in use
- Safe for sensitive skin (barring specific allergies or sensitivities)
- All-natural ingredients, without fillers, chemicals, preservatives, fragrance, or hormones
Ingredients
Sunflower seed oil, grapeseed oil, evening primrose oil, coconut oil, almond oil, and vitamin E
Directions
Use before and during intimacy as a lubricant or daily as a personal moisturizer. (Confer with your health care provider before using for skin conditions beyond dryness.)
Elvie Trainer
$ 199.00
It's challenging to exercise a muscle you can't see.
You don't know if you're doing the exercise correctly or if your efforts are making a difference. The Elvie Trainer is a Kegel device that uses an app, so you can track your progress. The app provides real-time feedback for tracking, so you can perfect your technique; when the pelvic muscles are contracting, a "gem" inside the device lifts, helping you visualize what you're doing via the app.
The small, pebble-shaped pod is placed in the vagina, like a tampon. It's comfortable to use and is programmed with fun five-minute workouts designed to tone the muscles of the pelvic floor. There are four levels of exercise, with six exercises tailored for each level. With use, the Elvie reduces leaks, increases blood flow to boost arousal, and strengthens orgasms.
The Elvie Trainer and app are compatible with iPhones 4S and newer and Android phones or tablets 4.3 and newer, which support Bluetooth Low Energy. You can also use the Elvie Trainer with iPad 3 and newer, including iPad Air and Mini.
Manufacturer: Chiaro
Who should consider this product
Anyone with a desire to tone and strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor and a moderate level of comfort with technology.
Why we chose it
The Elvie Trainer has been recommended by over 800 health professionals. And it's "smart"! We know Kegel exercises can be tricky to get right.
Things we like
- It's simple to use, yet provides instant and extensive information that helps users improve their pelvic tone.
- It's waterproof so can be used where you're comfortable.
- Can be used during pregnancy (consult your doctor first) and with an IUD.
- Available in multiple languages.
Ingredients
The Elvie Trainer is completely covered in medical-grade silicone, with no exposed parts.
Directions
Consult the included instruction for complete details. The trainer is placed in the vagina, with the "tail" outside. When you use Elvie, it sends data to your mobile device through that tail. Data is stored on encrypted servers so confidentiality is preserved but your device capacity is protected. The Elvie is easy to clean with soap and water.
Emerita OH Warming Lubricant
$ 20.99
Combining glycerin and cinnamon, Emerita OH enhances your body's own moisture with a warming sensation.
Paraben-free, Emerita OH warms with cinnamon extract. It's both a natural lubricant and a subtle arousal aid. Available in a convenient packable 2 oz/59 ml bottle. A little goes a long way, as you can see by rubbing a little on your wrist.
Manufacturer: Emerita
Who Should Consider this Product
Especially choose Emerita OH if you're a fan of their moisturizer, but it's a safe choice for most who'd like to experiment with added sensation. If you have very sensitive skin or suffer from vulvodynia, you might not consider it. Rated 91 by SkinSAFE; contains fragrance and propolyne glycol.
Why we chose it
Our medical advisory team recommends Emerita products, and we like the simplicity of OH's formula.
Things we like
Warming sensation on contact
Things we don't like
Contains glycerine, which is an irritant for some
Ingredients
Glycerin, propylene glycol, cinnamomum cassia (cinnamon) bark extract, honey, hydroxypropyl cellulose, lactic acid
Directions
Follow package directions. Warming lubricants can be irritating to some with skin sensitivities. Try a small amount initially and discontinue if discomfort occurs.
Emerita Personal Feminine Moisturizer
$ 10.99
Specially formulated by women for women to provide comfort and restore balance during perimenopause and menopause.
Emerita Personal Feminine Moisturizer contains vitamin E, aloe vera gel, chamomile, and calendula to heal tissues that can be disrupted by vaginal dryness. The all-natural ingredients are in a water-based solution that is completely washable, unscented, flavorless, and non-staining. Available in 2-oz and 4-oz bottles. Choose the "with syringe applicator" option if you'd like that convenience for use (note the applicator is not pre-filled).
Who Should Consider this Product
Women addressing vaginal dryness who prefer natural products. Rated 82 by SkinSAFE; contains parabens, preservative, and fragrance.
Why We Chose It
Our medical advisory team recommends it for its effectiveness in restoring moisture in a soothing formula.
Things We Like
All natural ingredients
Paraben-free
No mineral oil, petroleum, or animal ingredients
No animal testing
Formulated by women for women
Ingredients
Water (purified), glycerin, pentylene glycol, hydroxyethyl cellulose, sorbitol, xylitol, aloe barbadensis (aloe vera) leaf juice, tocopheryl acetate (vitamin E), retinyl palmitate, calendula officinalis (calendula) flower extract, chamomilla recutita (matricaria) extract, panax ginseng root extract, allantoin, squalane, sodium hydroxymethylglycinate, disodium EDTA, citric acid
Directions
Apply to vaginal area as needed—even daily.
Further Help
Use a Moisturizer
Systemic Hormones
Empty Nest Kit
$ 29.99
Remember what it was like before kids?
Many of us are navigating an empty nest, because our youngest child has just gone off to college or grad school--or just moved out again after landing that first job. There are lots of circumstances that can lead you to this now-unfamiliar spot: It’s just you and your partner.
We’ve put together this kit to give you a boost in rediscovering that partnership. A dozen Romantic Vows for Affectionate Lovers can open the door to playfulness and reconnection. They work like “love coupons,” and you can decide how to use them with your partner to surprise each other. A Jolie vibrator is among our most discreet, while still delivering the stimulation midlife women can need. At less than four inches long and an inch in diameter, the Jolie can be tucked into a pocket, a bag, or a convenient drawer. And Pink Silicone lubricant is among our most popular; it’s medical-grade and moisturizing, as well as being long-lasting. We include a 2.8-oz. bottle.
Manufacturer: Assembled by MiddlesexMD
Who should consider the product
Anyone who’s making a transition that is also an opportunity to define a “new normal” for intimacy in a relationship.
Why we chose it
As parents (and humans!) ourselves, we on the MiddlesexMD team have experienced life changes that were turning points in our relationships. We’d like to empower folks to make the most of the opportunity.
Things we like
These products meet MiddlesexMD’s criteria for performance and safety. And then we add some fun.
Estrogen Matters
$ 20.99
The title says it all: Estrogen Matters: Why Taking Hormones in Menopause Improves Women's Well-Being, Lengthens their Lives--and Doesn't Raise the Risk of Breast Cancer.
This is the book Dr. Barb hopes every woman (and every health care provider who serves women) will read. It explains the role of estrogen in women's health, and debunks false narratives that have emerged over the past several decades. Hear an interview with the authors, Dr. Carol Tavris and Dr. Avrum Bluming, on our podcast, The Fullness of Midlife.
Dr. Barb found this book to be clear and compelling, and very helpful in outlining the risks and benefits--based on scientific evidence--that will help every woman be an informed advocate for her own health.
320-page hardcover book
Who should consider this product
Anyone investigating health through menopause and beyond, especially if she's received conflicting advice about hormone therapy or has particular concern about heart, bone, or cognitive health. Which, Dr. Barb would say, means "Anyone!"
Why we chose it
Dr. Barb and the MiddlesexMD team receive books for review periodically. Some are interesting, some are forgettable, but Dr. Barb found this one absolutely galvanizing.
Fin
$ 85.00
Wear Fin to get the sensations you want. It works the way you play.
Worn between your fingers, the Fin vibrator acts as an extension of your body to increase stimulation. It's inobtrusively petite, with a three-speed motor that is rechargeable via USB. It's easy to remove, to change, to charge, to use, and the women at Dame Products say it's "easy to please." A removable tether adds options for holding the water-resistant Fin in just the right place.
There's a firmer side and a softer side, so you can choose what you like best, and you hold it near your fingertips or your palm. Experiment to see what Fin can do!
Manufacturer: Dame Products
Who Should Consider this Product
Its ease of use and flexibility make the Fin a good first vibrator, as well as a unique addition to a collection. Because it's easy to hold and manipulate, it can be a good choice for those with dexterity issues.
Why We Chose It
Dame Products struck us as a company that shares our mission of empowering women to be as sexually active as they like for as long as they choose. The company is women-owned and crowd-sourced, which means they're eager to hear the voices of their customers.
Things We Like
We like the scale and the way it merges naturally with the hand.
Things We Don't Like
Cannot be used with silicone lubricants.
Materials
Medical-grade silicone
Directions
Carefully read the owner's manual for full instructions.
Further Help
Flickering Touch Massage Candle
$ 34.90
With natural soy wax, shea butter, and apricot kernel oil, these candles melt into a pool of luxurious massage oil.
Who Should Consider this Product
Why we chose it
Things we like
Ingredients
Directions
Gigi2
$ 138.99
Redesigned for higher performance, the Gigi2 is twice as strong as the original and waterproof.
Like the original Gigi, long a MiddlesexMD favorite, the Gigi2 concentrates on G-spot stimulation with its unique shape. This new version has vibration intensity that is twice as strong as the original, controlled by an intuitive dial for intensity and pulsation mode. 6 1/2 inches long, 1 1/2 in diameter, the new version is also waterproof. One-year warranty. Available in deep rose and cool grey.
Manufacturer: Lelo
Who Should Consider this Product
Choose the Gigi2 if vibration strength is especially important to you or if you like the idea of a waterproof vibe. Especially good for new users, the Gigi is good for internal or external stimulation, as well as concentration on the G-spot.
Why we chose it
With a passion for design and engineering, Lelo is among the most respected makers of "pleasure objects." All of the products designed and manufactured by Lelo are outstanding in safety, quality, design, and functionality.
Things we like
Stronger motor is especially good for midlife women
Waterproof
Phthalate-free, safe materials in a silky soft-to-the-touch product
Things we don't like
Cannot be used with silicone lubricants
Materials
Silicone
Directions
Carefully read the owner's manual and fully charge your Gigi2 before use.
Use a Personal Vibrator
Self Stimulation
Intensity InTone Electrode Gel
$ 8.49
Designed by the makers of the Intensity Pelvic Tone Vibrator, this gel supports effective muscle stimulation.
InTone Electrode Gel is part of effective use of the Intensity vibrator for stimulation and pelvic tone. This 2-ounce tube contains a gel that is salt-free, hypoallergenic, and bacteriostatic. It is not a lubricant, but intended specifically for use with the Intensity.
Manufacturer: InControl Medical, LLC
Who should consider this product
Purchase more electrode gel if you're using the Intensity Pelvic Tone Vibrator and have exhausted the supply of gel received with your device.
Why we chose it
InControl Medical developed this product to be appropriate for the most effective use of their Intensity vibrator.
Things we like
Other electrode gels are intended for external use only; they may contain ingredients that aren't friendly to sensitive tissues.
Directions
Follow the instructions that came with your Intensity device and on the gel packaging.
Intensity Pelvic Tone Vibrator
$ 198.99
This pelvic tone vibrator mixes pleasure with business.
Who Should Consider this Product
Why we chose it
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Directions
Jolie
$ 17.99
The Jolie is a finger-shaped mini vibrator that packs a lot of stimulation in a single speed.
Easy to use with a twist on/off feature, the waterproof, battery-powered Jolie provides comfortable, concentrated clitoral stimulation with its tapered tip. Discreet and pocket-sized, just 3 3/4 inches long and 1 inch diameter, the Jolie is ready for travel, shower, or bath.
Manufacturer: Natural Contours
Who Should Consider this Product
Choose the Jolie if you're new to vibrators and feel intimidated by larger models. It's discreet, but will do the trick when it comes to clitoral stimulation. This vibrator has function similar to the Petite Pink Ribbon, which was made by the same manufacturer until they discontinued it.
Why we chose it
Products from Natural Contours are designed by women for women; they share our view of the importance of women's sexual health.
Things we like
Easy to use
Phthalate-free and body-safe materials
Things we don't like
Not as durable as the Mia
Materials
Plastic
Joylux Photonic Gel
$ 25.00
For use with the vFit Wellness Device, this gel improves performance.
A premium, ultra-concentrated water-based gel, infused with hyaluronic acide and aloe to help moisturize vaginal tissues, designed for use with the vFit to improve performance and your comfort. 75 ml/2.5 fl oz tube.
Who should consider this product
Women using the vFit Wellness Device to improve and strengthen pelvic floor muscles, or those facing incontinence, vaginal atrophy, loss of natural lubrication or reduced ability to achieve orgasm.
Why we chose it
It's recommended by the Joylux developers of the vFit device.
Ingredients
Water (aqua/eau), propylene glycol, hydroxyethylcellulose, PEG-45M, sodium hyaluronate, aloe barbadensis (aloe vera) leaf juice, polyquaternium-5, gluconolactone, sodium benzoate, potassium sorbate, citric acid.
Kama Sutra Massage Oil
$ 15.99
Kama Sutra Massage Oils are light, silky smooth, and fortified with skin-nourishing Vitamin E.
Who Should Consider this Product
Why we chose it
Things we like
Kama Sutra Massage Oil Assortment
$ 26.99
A kit of five lets you experience all the scents of this light, silky-smooth, vitamin-E-fortified Kama Sutra Massage Oil.
Who Should Consider this Product
Why we chose it
Things we like
KegelSmart Personal Trainer
$ 99.95
Its maker calls this device a "smarter way to Kegel."
Why? It's a trainer because it guides you through pelvic floor exercises, registering the strength of your muscles and adjusting the exercise (up or down) based on your contraction strength.
Insert the KegelSmart into your vagina. When you feel a gentle vibration of the device, contract your pelvic floor muscles. When the vibration stops, relax. Sensors within the device read the amount of pressure exerted; using a scale of very strong, strong, average, weak, and very weak, the KegelSmart selects the right level for your next session. The KegelSmart will continue to evaluate your pelvic strength to ensure you're exercising at the optimal level, adjusting the exercises as you go.
Uses one AAA battery, which is not included. One-year manufacturer's warranty.
Manufacturer: Lelo Intimina
Who should consider this product
Every woman can benefit from a strong pelvic floor, which supports internal organs like the bladder, bowel, and uterus. The KegelSmart is a simple way to assure that Kegel exercises are done effectively, whether you're preparing for or recovering from childbirth, looking to prevent incontinence, or seeking enhanced sensation during intimacy.
Why we chose it
Lelo has been among our favorite manufacturers for the quality of their design. Their Intimina line has been a smart addition, and this product in particular was developed by Intimina's medical advisory board, which includes gynecologists and pelvic floor experts.
Things we like
- Easy to use: You don't need to choose a level, count muscle contractions, or time yourself. It's like having a personal coach providing direction.
- Five levels of exercises: Each of the levels has its own routine designed to build strength and tone over time.
- Immediate feedback: When on, a flashing LED light displays the current strength and duration level (one flash for level one through five flashes for level five).
- Useful any time, anywhere: The guiding vibrations are silent for discreet exercising.
- Waterproof for complete hygiene: The KegelSmart can be washed in soap and water.
Materials
Made of medical-grade silicone, the KegelSmart is hypoallergenic, latex- and phthalate-free, and contains no toxins. An antibacterial pouch is provided for storage.
Directions
Turn on and insert the KegelSmart. When you feel the vibration, lift and squeeze your pelvic muscles and hold the contraction for the duration of the vibration. When the vibration stops, release and relax your pelvic floor muscles. Resting between contractions is an important part of the exercise, as it gives your muscles time to recover. Breathe normally as you do your routine.
Each exercise routine will begin with a warm-up of short contract/rest motions, followed by the main workout of longer contract/rest motions suited to your pelvic floor strength level. A series of three quick vibrations signifies the end of the exercise routine and the device will turn off automatically.
Do Kegel Exercises, Perhaps with an Exercise Tool
Kip
$ 85.00
"Ergonomic stimulation right where you want it."
Kip has a pointed tip for pinpoint accuracy. Its prism-shaped body is easy to grip, and its cupped surface makes maximum contact. Five different patterns and intensities means you can customize Kip to meet your needs. Kip is completely waterproof and whisper quiet. It's rechargeable via a magnetic USB connection for an hour and a half use on a high setting, and is 3.75 inches long.
Manufacturer: Dame Products
Who Should Consider this Product
Choose the Kip if you're new to vibrators and would like an inviting, easy-to-use place to start or if you're looking for some fun variety for your vibrator collection.
Why We Chose It
Dame Products struck us as a company that shares our mission of empowering women to be as sexually active as they like for as long as they choose. The company is women-owned and was originally crowd-sourced, which means they're eager to hear the voices of their customers.
Things We Like
Unique tip design allows for better stimulation where we need it most.
Things We Don't Like
Cannot be used with silicone lubricants.
Materials
Medical-grade silicone
Directions
Carefully read the owner's manual for full instructions.
Further Help
Kiri
$ 29.95
A palm-held personal massager, the fully waterproof Kiri has 6 vibration patterns and 16 different speeds.
Kiri's whisper-quiet vibrations are powered by 2 AAA batteries. The 4 1/2-inch long vibrator is made of body-safe phthalate-free silicone and ABS. The 3-button controls are lockable and easy to use. At 120 Hz, it's one of the more powerful battery-operated vibrators available.
Manufacturer: Lelo
Who Should Consider this Product
Consider this clitoris vibrator if you wish to increase arousal to the clitoris region, either in solo exploration or couple's play, especially if you'd like a waterproof model.
Why we chose it
With a passion for design and engineering, Lelo is among the most respected makers of "pleasure objects." All of the products designed and manufactured by Lelo are outstanding in safety, quality, design, and functionality.
Things we like
Phthalate-free
Waterproof
Enough power for midlife women
Materials
FDA-approved silicone and ABS
Directions
Read the owner's manual for full instructions. Remember to get 2 AAA batteries!
Liv2
$ 138.99
Twice the vibration strength, waterproof, and retains all the features we loved about the original Liv.
The Liv2 has twice the motor strength of the original, for stronger sensations. It's still adjustable via an intuitive control dial from a flutter to intense pulsations, in eight patterns. The iconic form is curved to the female form; 6 1/2 inches long and 1 inch in diameter. Available in cerise and blue.
Manufacturer: Lelo
Who Should Consider this Product
Because of its size and versatility, the Liv2 is especially good for beginners and couples.
Why we chose it
With a passion for design and engineering, Lelo is among the most respected makers of "pleasure objects." All of the products designed and manufactured by Lelo are outstanding in safety, quality, design, and functionality.
Things we like
Even stronger vibrations are great for midlife women
Body-safe materials
Things we don't like
Cannot be used with silicone lubricants
Materials
Silicone
Directions
Carefully read the owner's manual and fully charge your Liv2 before use.
Lubrigyn Cream
$ 11.99
Odorless and tasteless, this cream offers lasting lubrication.
Lubrigyn Cream uses hyaluronic acid and elastin in synergy to moisturize and maintain tissues. The hyaluronic acid helps to maintain the structure of tissue, enabling the cells to retain water, and elastin helps to limit stretching of skin. Sweet almond oil is easily absorbed and contains vitamins E and B proteins, glucids, and mineral salts. Vitamin A provides a thin barrier that helps to guard against infections. The cream can be used for daily moisturizing and as a lubricant for comfortable intimacy.
Manufacturer: Uniderm USA
Who Should Consider This Product
Lubrigyn Cream offers moisturizing as well as lubrication, so can be especially helpful to women with regular vaginal dryness. Rated 73 by SkinSAFE; contains fragrance, coconut, MCI/MC, and propolyne glycol.
Why We Chose It
One of our medical advisors, Dr. Michael Krychman, recommended this product, calling it "a revolutionary product, since it has the moisturizing and lubricating effects of hyaluronic acid and elastin. It nurtures the vaginal and vulvar tissues to help restore, revive, and replenish the health of the tissue."
Ingredients
Aqua, prunus amygdalus dulcis oil, propylene glycol, cetearyl alcohol, cetyl alcohol, stearyl alcohol, ceteareth-12, isopropyl myristate, retinyl palmitate, calendula officinalis flower extract, isopropyl palmitate, dimethicone, BHT, imidazolidinyl urea, cocamidopropyl betaine, PEG-32, PEG-6, glucose, hydrolyzed elastin, benzyl alcohol, triethylene glycol, lactic acid, sodium hyaluronate, magnesium chloride, magnesium nitrate, methylchloroisothiazolinone, methylisothiazolinone.
Directions
As a moisturizer, apply to cleansed area two or three times a day, using five pumps from the dispenser. As a lubricant, apply before intercourse, using five pumps from the dispenser.
Further Help
Use a Vaginal Lubricant
Use a Moisturizer
Lubrigyn Lotion
$ 8.99
A creamy lotion that works gently to cleanse and moisturize delicate tissues.
Lubrigyn Lotion is made with natural active ingredients, including sweet almond oil, jojoba oil, olive oil, chamomile, and aloe vera. It's pH balanced and hypoallergenic. Rather than lathering, it works with or without water for cleansing; it can be used as an all-over body wash, benefiting skin with natural oils, hyaluronic acid, and elastin.
Manufacturer: Uniderm USA
Who Should Consider This Product
Lubrigyn Lotion will benefit anyone who is experiencing dryness. Because of its make-up, it's recommended for those undergoing radiation therapy. It's safe for pregnant women.
Why We Chose It
One of our medical advisors, Dr. Michael Krychman, recommended Lubrigyn Lotion, saying, "It's an excellent wash, as it gently cleanses and nurtures the vulvar tissues without aggressive, harsh, detergent-like ingredients."
Things We Like
Natural ingredients and safe, effective performance
Ingredients
Aqua, calendula officinalis extract, pinus pinaster extract, sodium benzoate, citric acid, C12-15, phenoxyethanol, alkyl benzoate, diglycerin, sodium hyaluronate, aloe barbadensis gel, sodium dehydroacetate, triisostearin, propylene glycol, sodium metabisulfite, ceteareth-25, ceteth-2, cetyl palmitate, glyceryl stearate, cetearyl alcohol, dimethicone, C12-15 pareth-3, C12-15 pareth-3 phosphate, cyclopentasiloxane, lauryl alcohol, myristyl alcohol, parfum.
Luna Beads Vaginal Weights
$ 58.95
Luna Beads are a lovely weighted beads designed to improve your pelvic floor muscle strength.
Two pairs of beautiful, translucent, 1 1/2-inch-diameter beads are interchangeable in their holder. A pink bead weighs 28 grams, the blue 37 grams; you can start with the lighter-weight pink beads and then exchange for one or two of the blue beads as you become more practiced. You'll receive a satin pouch for storage and a user manual. The makers offer a full one-year warranty.
Who Should Consider this Product
Choose the Luna Beads if you'd like to increase your pelvic floor muscle tone for overall response, orgasm, or continence.
Why we chose it
With a passion for design and engineering, Lelo is among the most respected makers of “pleasure objects.” When you receive your Lelo product, you'll feel like you've been given a special gift.
Things we like
Ohnut
$ 65.00
A donut-shaped wearable that lets you control penetration depth.
The Ohnut's interlocking polymer blend rings slip over the penis and act as a buffer to prevent uncomfortable penetration. When stacked together, all 4 rings are 2¾” tall; the rings can stretch to a width of 8”, so Ohnut can accommodate men of all sizes.
Manufacturer: Ohnut
Who should consider this product
Women with deep dyspareunia or other conditions that lead to pain with deep penetration.
Why we chose it
Started by a woman who suffered from painful sex and could not find a solution, Ohnut was crowdfunded and has quickly gained popularity as another tool in the box for making intimacy comfortable.
Things we like
One of the few solutions available to make painful sex more enjoyable by controlling the depth of penetration. BPA, pthalate, and latex free
Materials
FDA-approved body- and skin-safe polymer blend.
Ooooh Gift Set
$ 19.99
If you want to send a friend the message that she's still vital and sexy, this set can do it!
Your message is conveyed with a scented candle that melts into massage oil and a gift-bagged assortment of lubricant samples, including water-based, silicone, and hybrid—seven in all.
Manufacturer: Assembled by MiddlesexMD
Why we chose it
We assembled this combination to encourage experimentation without being intrusive or directive.
Practice Mindfulness
Bonding Behaviors
Use a Vaginal Lubricant
Personal Lubricant Selection Kit
$ 30.99
Find the personal lubricant you like best.
When you order the Selection Kit, you'll first receive sample sizes of some of our most popular: some water-based, silicone, and hybrid. Go online to tell us which you like best, and we'll send you a full-sized bottle of your favorite. Shipping of both packages (Continental US only) is included in the purchase price. The shortest path to finding your own personal lubricant!
Who Should Consider this Product
Why we chose it
Things we like
Things we don't like
Pillo
$ 95.00
Reduce fatigue and improve positioning during sex play.
Both the Pillo's indigo-colored cotton outer shell and white nylon inner shell are removable and washable. Dimensions, in inches, are 15 by 18 by 7. The Pillo is small and maneuverable, and has other uses as well: Use it to recline comfortably to read or to prop a magazine on your lap.
Manufacturer: Dame Products
Who Should Consider this Product
Choose Pillo if you have back problems, difficulty breathing when reclined, or other chronic disabilities—or if it's just difficult for you to assume or maintain positions you'd like.
Why we chose it
Pillo disguises as bedroom decor by day and is a firm, comfortable support at night.
Things we like
Dame Products is a company that shares our mission of empowering women to be as sexually active as they like for as long as they choose. The company is women-owned and crowd-sourced, which means they're eager to hear the voices of their customers.
Materials
Polyurethane form, cotton outer cover, nylon inner cover, microsuede storage bag
Pink Silicone
$ 8.99
Pink is a medical-grade silicone-based lubricant with moisturizing aloe vera and vitamin E.
This lubricant is fragrance-free and hypoallergenic. It is formulated with dimethicone, the highest grade of silicone. It's available in a 4 oz/120 ml pump dispenser, 1.7 oz/50 ml bottle, or a set of seven single-use packets for trial or travel use.
Manufacturer: Empowered Products, Inc.
Who Should Consider this Product
Choose Pink if you're looking for a silicone-based lubricant formulated for sensitive skin. It's condom-safe and good for those prone to yeast infections or allergic reactions.
Rated Top Free by SkinSAFE.
Things we like
Beautiful bottle
Waterproof
Great for sensual massage
Things we don't like
Cannot be used with silicone-based toys
Doesn't absorb completely into the skin and can be hard to wash off
Pink Water
$ 8.99
Pink Water is a water-based lubricant, fortified with aloe vera and gentle on your skin.
This water-based lubricant is highly concentrated, yet easy to wash off. It's glycerin-free and contains no pigments, so it can't stain. It's also unscented and flavor free. Natural moisture is provided with hydroxyethylcellulose. The 2.8 oz/80 ml bottle is small enough to fit in a handbag. The 4.7 oz/140 ml bottle is a great value.
Manufacturer: Empowered Products, Inc.
Who Should Consider this Product
Choose Pink Water if you're looking for a water-based lubricant with some moisturizing benefits. Rated 91 by SkinSAFE; contains gluten, fragrance, and propolyne glycol.
Why we chose it
The Pink lubricant has been a favorite for a number of our customers, so we were happy to see a new water-based addition to their line!
Things we like
Easy to clean
Unscented, unflavored
Glycerin-free
Things we don't like
Contains parabens
Ingredients
Water, propylene glycol, hydroxyethylcellulose, aloe barbadensis leaf extract, methylparaben, diazolidinyl urea, propylparaben, sodium benzoate, tetrasodium EDTA, panax ginseng root extract, paullinia cupana (guarana) seed
Pjur Med Premium Glide
$ 24.99
Specially formulated lubrication for dry or highly sensitive genital tissues.
Pjur Med Premium Glide offers long-lasting lubrication made of high-quality silicone. It contains no preservatives and has been tested and found to be compatible with all skin and mucosa types. It's compatible with latex condoms, too, and can be used as an all-body massage glide in addition to intimate lubrication. Contains 3.4 oz (100 ml).
Manufacturer: Pjur Group
Who should consider this product
Women (and men) seeking a long-lasting, natural-feeling lubricant, especially if they have sensitive skin, would like a multi-purpose product that can be used for moisture and massage, or if you'd like more lubricant effect with less product. Rated Top Free by SkinSAFE.
Why we chose it
Pjur is a trusted brand long recommended by health care and massage professionals.
Things we like
- Condom-safe
- Leaves skin feeling soft and smooth; doesn't block pores
Ingredients
Dimethicone, Dimethiconol, Cyclopentasiloxane
Directions
Apply to any area of the body where extra moisture is desired. Safe for daily use.
Pjur Woman Bodyglide
$ 12.99
Pjur Woman is a silicone lubricant designed to enhance personal pleasure, for therapeutic body massage, and for skin conditioning and moisturizing.
A long-time favorite in the sex therapist community, Pjur Woman is super concentrated--so you use less--and fragrance-free. This smooth and silky lubricant is available in 1 oz/30 ml or 3.4 oz/100 ml bottles. Its ingredients are safe and hypoallergenic.
Manufacturer: Pjur
Who Should Consider this Product
Choose Pjur Woman if you have sensitive skin, you'd like a multi-purpose product that can be used for moisture and massage, or if you'd like more lubricant effect with less product.
Rated Top Free by SkinSAFE.
Why we chose it
Pjur is a trusted brand long recommended by health care and massage professionals.
Things we like
Leaves skin feeling smooth and soft
Condom-safe
Ingredients
Dimethicone, dimethiconol, cyclomethicone
Directions
A little Pjur Woman goes a long way, so experiment to find the amount that works for you.
Places for Passion: The 75 Most Romantic Destinations
$ 18.79
The title says it all! Frommer and AARP teamed up to choose destinations for couples.
Authors Pepper Schwartz and Janet Lever make the case for why traveling together is an important part of sustaining romance in our lives. Along with solid travel advice, the book offers ways to negotiate with your partner about vacation plans.
416-page paperback book
Manufacturer: FrommerMedia
Who Should Consider this Product
Pick up this book if you're looking for ways to sustain or rekindle intimacy in your relationship (or set a new one off on a solid trajectory), or if you'd like inspiration for getting out of your comfort zone.
Why we chose it
We saw a review in the AARP magazine and knew it would be just right for women who are taking action to sustain or improve their relationships.
Things we like
Frommer's is a trusted travel advisor.
Pom
$ 95.00
"Pleasure is around the bend."
Pom nestles into the palm of your hand and its soft silicone construction flexes to contour your body for a snug fit. The rechargeable motor delivers both targeted and broad vibrations. The controls are easy and intuitive; it’s easy to toggle among five pre-set vibration patterns and to increase or decrease the intensity. Plus, Pom is completely waterproof.
Manufacturer: Dame Products
Who Should Consider this Product
Women looking for more sensation.
Why We Chose It
Dame Products is a company that shares our mission of empowering women to be as sexually active as they like for as long as they choose. The company is women-owned and crowd-sourced, which means they're eager to hear the voices of their customers.
Things We Like
- The flexibility is especially user-friendly.
- Controls are intuitive, so it’s easy to change vibration pattern and intensity as needed.
Things We Don't Like
Cannot be used with silicone lubricants.
Materials
Medical-grade silicone
Directions
Carefully read the owner's manual for full instructions.
Further Help
PrevaLeaf™ Oasis Natural Daily Vaginal Moisturizer
$ 19.59
A concentrated cream made with natural ingredients formulated especially for vaginal dryness.
Tested by both dermatologists and gynecologists, Oasis is paraben-, hormone- and fragrance-free, and pH-balanced for the vaginal environment. One 10-ml airless pump provides 30 applications; regular use increases comfort and improves tissue health.
Manufacturer: PrevaLeaf
Who Should Consider this Product
Any woman with vaginal dryness, which is common with the hormonal changes of perimenopause and menopause.
Why we chose it
We like PrevaLeaf's mission to help women stay in control and well, and their focus on all-natural ingredients.
Things we like
Oasis is water-based, is properly pH balanced for the vagina, and is hormone-, paraben-, and fragrance-free.
Ingredients
Water, emulsifying wax NF (naturally derived coconut, palm, and corn), ethylhexyl stearate (naturally derived vegetable-palm), cyclomethicone, sorbitol (naturally derived), lactobacillus ferment (naturally derived), vitis vinifera (grape) seed extract (naturally derived), tocopheryl acetate (vitamin E), sodium benzoate (naturally derived), aloe barbadensis leaf juice (natural, freeze-drying process), lactic acid (naturally derived), disodium EDTA
Directions
Wash hands and apply a fingertip-sized amount (two pumps) of PrevaLeaf™ Oasis as needed.
PrevaLeaf™ Soothe Natural Soothing Cream
$ 29.59
A natural, non-irritating cream to ease itch and discomfort.
A little goes a long way to improve comfort with soothing vitamin E and aloe. For external use, water-based Soothe is made with natural ingredients, paraben-, hormone-, and fragrance-free, and pH-balanced for the genital environment. It's formulated to absorb rapidly; the 10-ml airless pump dispenses up to 30 applications.
Manufacturer: PrevaLeaf
Who Should Consider this Product
Women with vaginal or vulvar discomfort, including dryness and itch, which is common with hormonal changes. It may also be caused by chemical irritation (from cleansers, hygiene products, or laundry detergents), friction and moisture from exercise clothing, yeast infections, or bacterial vaginosis. Rated 91 by SkinSAFE; contains fragrance and coconut.
Why we chose it
We like PrevaLeaf's mission to help women stay in control and well, and their focus on all-natural ingredients.
Things we like
Soothe is water-based with vitamin E and aloe. Its pH balance is slightly acidic, like the acidity of a healthy vaginal environment. It's hormone-free, paraben-free, and fragrance-free.
Ingredients
Water, emulsifying wax NF (naturally derived coconut, palm, and corn), ethylhexyl stearate (naturally derived vegetable-palm), cyclomethicone, sorbitol (naturally derived), lactobacillus ferment (naturally derived), vitis vinifera (grape) seed extract (naturally derived), tocopheryl acetate (vitamin E), lysine-proline-valine-chloride, sodium benzoate (naturally derived), aloe barbadensis leaf juice (natural, freeze-drying process), lactic acid (naturally derived), disodium EDTA
Directions
Wash hands and apply a fingertip-sized amount of PrevaLeaf™ Soothe as needed. Consult your health care provider if symptoms change or are associated with vaginal discharge.
Raya
$ 39.95
Designed for simple, intuitive use, the waterproof Raya can be used for internal or external stimulation.
The fully lockable 3-button controls make it easy to cycle through 6 vibration patterns and 16 speeds. The Raya is made of body-safe silicone and ABS. Just over 7 1/2 inches long and fully waterproof, the Raya requires 2 AAA batteries. It provides 120 Hz of power, which is among the best of battery-operated vibrators. Includes storage pouch.
Manufacturer: Lelo
Who Should Consider this Product
As a mid-size vibrator, the Raya might be chosen by either the beginner or the more experienced user, for solo or partner play. Its waterproof feature expands the possibilities.
Things we like
Phthalate-free
Waterproof
Intuitive controls
Materials
FDA-approved silicone and ABS
Directions
Carefully read the owner's manual for full instructions. Remember to have 2 AAA batteries on hand!
Restore Moisturizing Vaginal Lubricant
$ 14.99
A moisturizing lubricant that improves vaginal pH health
Restore Moisturizing Lubricant from Good Clean Love is formulated to mimic the body's lubricating response, matching the pH, salt balance, and lactobacilli of healthy vaginal conditions. It's free of parabens, glycerin, and petrochemicals. It can be used for comfort during intimacy or as a moisturizer for vaginal dryness.
Who should consider this product
Women (and their partners) who value natural products and who may be experiencing discomfort as a result of vaginal dryness.
Why we chose it
We like the approach taken by Good Clean Love to use natural, organic ingredients for products that enhance both health and intimacy.
Things we like
- Free of ingredients we recommend avoiding, like parabens and glycerin
- Safe for use with condoms or silicone toys
Ingredients
Organic aloe barbadensis leaf juice, xanthan gum, lactic acid, natural flavor, potassium sorbate, sodium benzoate
Directions
Apply generously to both partners, repeating application as necessary. To use for regular moisturizing, apply by hand or with applicator to moisturize and balance. Discontinue use and seek medical advice if irritation occurs.
Use a Vaginal Lubricant
Use a Moisturizer
Romance Magnetic Poetry Kits
$ 6.99
Everybody needs a little help saying what they mean. Let the Romance Magnetic Poetry Kit or the Little Box of Love help you.
These collections focus on love and intimacy. Combine and recombine to make your own poems. The Romance Magnetic Poetry Kit's clear plastic storage case includes 400 word magnets, each 3/8-inch (1 cm) high. The Little Box of Love contains 72 words in a 2 1/2-by-2-inch tin.
Manufacturer: Magnetic Poetry
Who Should Consider this Product
We know how hard it is to talk about love--even poets struggle! These collections of words will help anyone who's in love and would like it known.
Why we chose it
Any way you arrange them, these words still spell romance.
Things we like
The romance and playfulness
The practicality of turning a mere refrigerator or file cabinet into a billboard of passion
Directions
Combine and recombine these poetic magnets to woo your love a little more every day.
Further Help
Bonding Behaviors
Alternatives to Intercourse
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
$ 12.99
Author Ian Kerner, who holds a doctorate in clinical sexology, describes both the anatomical and psychological aspects of oral sex.
She Comes First speaks to both beginners and more seasoned lovers, grounded in the author’s candor about his own bout with sexual dysfunction. “Straightforward, intimate, and exuberant.”
240-page paperback book
Who Should Consider this Product
Why we Chose it
Our medical advisory team, which includes therapists as well as MDs, unanimously recommended it, and when we looked into it, we found that MiddlesexMD friend Joan Price also recommends that women buy it for their partners.
Siri2
$ 158.99
The rechargeable Siri2 has beauty, brains, and now a beat.
In this generation of the Siri, the original intensity and intuitive controls are enhanced. In addition to being 100-percent waterproof, the Siri2 has eight settings and the option for a sound-controlled pulse. In that mode, the vibrations are controlled by the tone and beat of nearby sound, whether it's mood music or your partner's voice. At 120 Hz, it has the vibration strength midlife women appreciate, in modes from a soft flutter to intense pulsation. It's shaped for clitoral stimulation but can be used anywhere on the body. It has a silky-smooth finish, is nearly silent in operation (less than 50dB at maximum), and is lockable so it doesn't turn on when you don't want it to. A two hour charge lasts for two hours in use or up to 90 days on standby; a charger is included.
Manufacturer: Lelo
Who Should Consider this Product
Consider the Siri2 to add a musical dimension, if you'd like a stronger vibration for more stimulation, or if you'd like to increase sensation either in solo exploration or couple's play.
Why we chose it
With a passion for design and engineering, Lelo is among the most respected makers of "pleasure objects." All of the products designed and manufactured by Lelo are outstanding in safety, quality, design, and functionality.
Things we like
Made of body-safe phthalate-free silicone and PC-ABS
Very quiet operation
Stronger vibrations for midlife women
Materials
Silicone and PC-ABS
Directions
Read the owner's manual and fully charge your Siri 2 before use.