Build intimate relationships.

Having emotional bonds is essential for good sex after 40.

Our sexual response is different from men's in a number of ways. We're more responsive than spontaneous. We're more easily aroused by sexual stimuli if we start from a place of emotional intimacy. Sex after menopause can be more satisfying when emotional intimacy is the foundation for our sexual experiences. 

Midlife can give us the opportunity to rediscover that intimacy, or to engage emotionally for the first time. Within those relationships, we can have satisfying sex after 40, fantastic sex after 50, and stay sexually active as long as we like. The suggestions below will get you started.

Try these actions. We’ve started with the simplest first. 

Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness—non-judgmental, present-moment awareness—has been shown to help people manage stress, pain, depression, and more.

Bonding Behaviors
The intimacy created by bonding behaviors can lead to a fulfilling sex life after menopause and beyond. We humans are attachment-forming creatures.

Alternatives to Intercourse
We may age, and our sexual abilities may change. But our need for physical affection, playfulness, and emotional intimacy never leaves us.

Testosterone Therapy
Many women are discovering that sex after 50 can rival their experiences from decades before. Testosterone therapy has led to restored sexual function, including sexual fantasies and libido.