Q: Would a vibrator be less irritating than manual stimulation?

If you're experiencing some irritation with clitoral stimulation, you might start with a hybrid or a silicone lubricant (Pink or Uberlube). They provide more slipperiness for longer than their water-based counterparts.

And I would recommend that you try a vibrator. You can vary the intensity of the vibration, the pattern of vibration (continuous or pulsed, for example), and the pressure you (or your partner) apply--all helpful to finding what you need *now* for arousal. I'd recommend the Kip as an external options that is versatile, have nice soft surfaces, and can be recharged. The Kiri is a battery-operated, waterproof option with similar features.

Finally, if you're using a localized hormone like Premarin internally, with an applicator, there may be no added benefit from using a vaginal moisturizer. There's no harm in trying it, though, and I encourage moisturizer use among women who are not using localized hormones. If you choose to, Yes is the preferred product for many women who come to MiddlesexMD.