You say you always feel “raw” after sex, and you ask about a soothing cream and what lubricant I might recommend. Uberlube or Pink Silicone are, in my opinion, the best lubricants for menopausal women. You likely would find one of the soothing products, best on the external vulvar tissues, helpful for use on a daily basis. Lubrigyn Cream is a great vaginal moisturizer, ideally used two times a week to keep the vagina (and vulva) healthier.
I hope this is helpful.
Dr. Barb DePree, M.D., has been a gynecologist and women’s health provider for almost 30 years and a menopause care specialist for the past ten.