I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Sex after menopause can be challenging. That’s behind many of the conversations I have in my medical practice, and a major motivation for the conversations on this website. You may have thought your sex life would actually improve as you aged. After all, the kids are moved out (or more independent), you’re likely in a better financial position, and no more periods means no worries about pregnancy.
And you may be encountering the reality that now you’re in the throes of perimenopause or menopause, your sex life isn’t quite what you imagined. You’re not alone.
I spend a lot of time discussing obstacles to sex during menopause faced by women like you. As you read through the list below, see if you identify with some or all of them. You may find that you have a lot of company on the road you thought you were traveling alone.
If you can relate to any or all of these, be assured there are others who have shared your experience, and have sought out ways to surmount each obstacle. Don’t be afraid to talk to your partner and be honest about how you’re feeling. Use this website or print pages from it to prompt discussion. If you feel like your symptoms are more than you can address on your own, make an appointment with your health care provider to investigate solutions.
The best time to work on the challenges of sex during menopause is now. You have years of great sex ahead of you; don’t waste time trying to figure it out alone.