Whether you have a little twinge or serious back pain during sex (and who doesn’t now and then?), these preventive measures can help ease the pain.
Explain the problem. Don’t leave your partner in the dark. Chances are, if you seem unwilling to have sex, your partner may interpret that as rejection. That’s almost as painful as back pain.
It’s hard to admit to physical limitations, especially in the sexual arena, but this is one of those topics that need airing. Then, it’s possible for your partner at least to understand the issue and more likely to become an ally in the search for solutions.
Medicate. Take an ibuprofen-type medication before sex. Or discuss using another pain-killer with your doctor.
Prepare. If your muscles tend to spasm, a hot shower before sex and cold compresses after could help. Or work a little massage with painkilling cream into your foreplay.
Innovate, don’t stress. Take your time. At this stage of the game, sex is more about connection than athletics. It’s more about enjoying the moment than setting off fireworks. Depending on the type of pain, try positions that support your back and reduce spinal movement. Experiment with support pillows to see what keeps you both comfortable. Or switch to other types of pleasuring if things get too gnarly.
Dr. Barb DePree, M.D., has been a gynecologist and women’s health provider for almost 30 years and a menopause care specialist for the past ten.