I'm glad to hear that a vibrator has been helpful to you! Women our age often need extra stimulation for arousal and orgasm, and many find that a vibrator provides just what they need. If you're looking for more, here are some things you might consider:
- A stronger motor: Not all vibrators are created equal. Check for motor strength, because it really does matter to midlife women: a stronger motor means more stimulation. You can also check for the number of pulse patterns offered; there's nothing magic about them, but they make experimentation easier.
- Get versatile: If you've started with an external clitoral vibrator, you might want to try a vibrator that can be used inside the vagina, too.
- Size differs: You'll notice I didn't say that size matters, but different sizes do offer different sensations. Models very in shape and dimension, the Raya for example is a slender model, while the Gigi 2 has a larger tip.
Dr. Barb DePree, M.D., has been a gynecologist and women’s health provider for almost 30 years and a menopause care specialist for the past ten.
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My husband and I are unsure about how to use a vibrator together in our sex life. So far, it feels awkward to my husband, and he reports he doesn’t feel “connected” to me when he uses a vibrator on me. He misses the intimacy of intercourse and we’re both shy and uncomfortable and worried about each other and feelings. I don’t normally achieve orgasm through intercourse, though, and would really like to experiment with my husband holding the vibe. Can you do a post on ways to use a vibrator in partner sex? I’ve got the solo thing down….
We’re working on a series on vibrator use and will keep that suggestion in mind! Thanks for the input.