Where'd My Desire Go?

Losing interest in sex is not really a loss unless it bothers you or interferes in important relationships.

If you miss taking an interest in sex, miss the physical and emotional benefits of an active sex life, regret its loss in your relationship, or would like to leave the door open to an active sex life in the future, then rekindling your interest is a worthy pursuit.

Loss of sexual interest, or libido, is extremely common in midlife women and often reversible for many of us. We all experience some effects from the change in our hormone levels. Many of us also experience conflicts in our relationships, traumatic experiences (like the death or other loss of a partner or loved one), high stress, serious illness, or side effects of medications.

There are cognitive, physical, and medical therapies available to help restore or lift your libido if and when you want to.

Dig deeper by exploring the related conditions listed at right, or choose another statement that sounds like you.

Next: Dig deeper into the underlying conditions

High Stress
The most common reason for declining interest in sex among women at any age?

Unsafe Relationship
Is your relationship unsafe? For many of us, that's not an easy question to answer. We each have basic rights for physical and emotional safety. 

No Partner
What, if anything, should we do about our sexual health if we have no sexual relationships? Midlife women are often without sex partners.

After Treatment
It might be hernia repair, a hysterectomy, endometriosis, or the removal of fibroids.

Helpful reminders 

Understand the recipe
Talking about sex
Seeking care and advice