Q: Will my libido be there when I find the right relationship?

You say you experienced “pins and needles” during intercourse in your last relationship, and of course it’s difficult to feel amorous when you’re expecting pain. That’s a common description of what it feels like to have genitourinary syndrome of menopause (also called vulvovaginal atrophy) or vulvodynia. A careful pelvic exam by a skilled practitioner can diagnose the condition.

There are treatments available, starting with moisturizers and including hormones, either local or systemic, and other medication options. But a clear diagnosis is the first step.

And then the relationship component. A strong and supportive relationship is an important part of libido and desire for most women. At midlife and beyond, though, we face the “use it or lose it” phenomenon: Here’s a blog post that addresses a “maintenance plan” so that when you find the relationship that’s worth it, you’re ready for intimacy.


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