Ah, summer! The sun is warm, the days are long and languid, and it has three holidays. It’s a season tailor made for spending time with the one you love, focusing on each other, and building intimacy.
While there’s nothing wrong with going to all those old familiar places, like the summer-only deck of your favorite restaurant, your time might be better spent mixing it up a little. That’s because familiarity and desire don’t always coexist happily. Couples often have to fan those flames, and the right kind of date night can help.
This summer, try applying Hollywood’s 80/20 formula: 80 percent familiar (girl meets boy) and 20 percent novel (girl happens to be a mermaid).
Choose something that the two of you have done and enjoyed in the past, but add a little (or big) twist. We’ll get you started.
Whatever it is you like to do as a couple, give it some spin, a kick in the keister. If nothing else comes to mind, try Phil and Claire’s trick. The Modern Family couple occasionally adds zing to their date night by pretending to be “Clive” and “Juliana,” two people who leave their responsibilities behind for a night of passion with “a stranger.” It may be the most ingenious solution of all to the love/desire dilemma.
Will some of this make you uncomfortable? We certainly hope so! Novelty—doing something you haven’t done before—involves risk, which leads to excitement, and can rekindle desire. It’s already July. How will you spend the rest of the summer?