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Mindfulness for Beginnners

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Jon Kabat-Zinn is a scientist, author, and teacher, who has brought mindfulness meditation into the mainstream of medicine. On this CD set, he introduces the ways that becoming mindful of our breathing can reduce stress and improve health. Mindfulness for Beginners includes...


The Miracle of Mindfulness

$ 13.95

The Miracle of Mindfulness, by Thich Nhat Hanh, is the classic introduction to Buddhist meditation. "Mindfulness is the miracle by which we master and restore ourselves," Hanh maintains, and this book contains stories and exercises to show how meditation works...


Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness—non-judgmental, present-moment awareness—has been shown to help people manage stress, pain, depression, and more. Mindfulness practice shows a lot of promise in recent medical research on women’s sexual functioning. Developed by eastern traditions, it is a practice we can learn...


Ooooh Gift Set

$ 19.99

If you want to send a friend the message that she's still vital and sexy, this set can do it! Your message is conveyed with a scented candle that melts into massage oil and a gift-bagged assortment of lubricant samples, including water-based,...


Mindfulness: Brain Retraining for Your Sex Life

In the last post, we talked about the placebo effect and the surprising ways that it may create the very brain changes that drugs like painkillers or antidepressants are meant to mimic. In this post, I’d like to focus on...


A Side of Mindfulness for the Holidays

Many of us are very goal-oriented. We like to make lists and to tick items off those lists. We like order; we don’t like chaos. Unfortunately, life is messy and sometimes chaotic. At no time is this truer than during...


Multitasking? Not So Intimate

How often does your mind wander during sex? You might wonder whether you’re “doing it right” or whether the light is flattering. You might be thinking about tomorrow’s plans or rehashing an event from today. You might wonder whether that...


A Little Conversation About Mindfulness

Since launching MiddlesexMD, I have to say, my dinners have gotten a lot more spicy. You know how it is when dining with buddies. It’s polite—required—for them to ask what you’ve been up to lately. When I tell them about...


Harnessing the Power of Your Mind

“Your most powerful sex organ doesn’t lie between your legs,” the famous sex researcher Alfred Kinsey is reported to have said. “It lies between your ears.” (Or, of course, as Dumbledore said to Harry Potter, "Of course it is happening...


Sagging Libido? Tone It Up with Yoga

There are many “natural” reasons women our age begin to lose interest in sex. Hormonal changes, diminished energy, lowered self-esteem as we mourn the loss of our youthful bodies -- a complicated mix of physical, psychological, and social influences conspire...


Yoga for Cancer Survivors

“I cannot give you another regimen that has as many good health benefits as exercise. Hands down. Exercise improves life energy and sexual energy; your body image will improve. I can’t give you a better, free intervention.” So said psychologist...


Being There: The Number One Component of Great Sex

In an earlier blog post we reported on a study published last year in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality called “The Components of Optimal Sexuality: A Portrait of ‘Great Sex.’” Analyzing interviews with 20 sex therapists and 44 people...


Connection: The Second Component of Great Sex

We’ve talked about how crucial mindfulness--being mentally and emotionally present in the moment--is to enjoying great sex, sex that is “better than good,” as reported in a study recently published in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality. I like to...


High Stress

The most common reason for declining interest in sex among women at any age? Stress.  And midlife women are getting stress from so many directions. If you have children, they are often in a state of transition now. If your...


Physical/Emotional Distance

By midlife many of us have been in our relationships for decades, have endured ups and downs together. We have formed habits of communicating or not communicating, and have longstanding sexual habits, too. It's more common than not for longstanding...


Q: Can I regain my desire?

I wish there were a "secret sauce" that worked for all of us to restore libido. Not surprisingly, it's more complicated than that. It's somewhat unusual to have an abrupt change to libido; for most women, it's a "slow drift." The...


Make Time Stand Still -- the Body Scan

I’m busy exploring the boundaries of a new phase of my life, brought on by an illness I’m managing. As illnesses will, it’s grabbed me by the collar, given me a big shake, and forced me to order my priorities....


Q: Am I stuck with an unfulfilling sex life?

No!  It’s great that you recognize the value of remaining sexually active, despite your decreasing libido. As we get older, we have to learn some new techniques to continue to enjoy sex. You can use the MiddlesexMD website to have...


Sex on the Brain

We’ve talked before about mindfulness – making a conscious effort to become more fully aware of something and thinking more deeply about it – and how being more mindful of sex can help increase your desire for it. Because like many...


Sexual Satisfaction: All in Our Heads?

I saw a headline that irked me in Salon.com’s Broadsheet a week or two ago. I couldn’t quite put my finger on why it bothered me until I wrote a post about the cancelation of the flibanserin project last week....


The Recipe for Sexual Health

Here's a quick explanation from Dr. Barb about how to use the recipe to understand your experiences: And here's the recipe. To enjoy sex after menopause, we believe a woman needs: Knowledge: She needs to know the physiology of menopause, so...


Q: Any suggestions for overcoming lack of desire and pain during sex?

The first thing I try to do with women who have both of these issues is to make sex comfortable. It is pretty hard to be interested in intercourse when you know it is going to lead to pain. You might...


Clinical Pearls for Sexual Health and Happiness

I’ve got much to catch up on, study up on, and share with you from my trip to the North American Menopause Society (NAMS) annual meeting a couple of weeks ago. It was a whirlwind of great talks, and such a marvelous...


Body Image

Most of us have worked all our lives to develop a good body image—what a complicated concept! It's hard to develop and maintain confidence about our bodies in a world filled with messages and marketing telling us every waking minute...


Weak or Absent Orgasm

If you’ve never had an orgasm, or have stopped having them, you are in good company: Women who enjoy sex, love their partners, and wonder, as you might, why not me? An orgasm is simply this: intense pleasure and release of muscular tension, along with involuntary contractions of your pelvic floor muscles....


Another Way to Stay in Touch

We love hearing from our readers and our customers. We’re thrilled when we hear from someone who’s gotten unstuck in her sex life because of information or products we’ve been able to supply. Two recent messages, for example: A husband...


Q: How do I implement “the recipe”?

You say you’ve spent some time reading about “the recipe for sexual health,” and are looking for the “how to implement” – and are struggling with HSDD (hypoactive sexual desire disorder). I’m sorry to say that there isn’t a single...


Q: Can love lead back to desire?

First, let me assure you that you're not alone in feeling a loss of libido: It's common for women to lose desire, even in great, emotionally supportive relationships. Low desire is challenging to treat, because we women are complex sexual...


Intimate Gifts from Our Shop for Your Special People

Six weeks before Christmas, and we all know the drill. We muddle; we fret; we scour, until… we find that perfect, thoughtful, useful, attractive gift for those special people in our lives who just happen to have everything. Does it...


The Transformative Power of Sex

“There are many paths to heaven, and sex is one of them.” --Abraham Maslow Maslow, the humanist psychologist who invented the term “peak experience,” would know exactly what participants in the “Optimal Sexuality” study mean when they say that “transformation”...


Another Dead End for “Pink Viagra”

It’s official. Boehringer Engelheim, the German pharmaceutical company, has shelved its plans to develop flibanserin. They’ve decided to focus on other drugs that “have better potential to make it to market.” The pill’s been called “pink Viagra” because it was...


When an Orgasm Is Not an Orgasm

This topic comes up more often with girlfriends than with patients. But it comes up often enough with girlfriends that I know it’s on my patients’ minds, too! The question is whether it’s sometimes okay to fake an orgasm. I...


The Third Component of Great Sex: Deep Sexual and Erotic Intimacy

What's the difference between "connection" (number two of the "eight components of optimal sexuality") and "deep sexual and erotic intimacy" (number three)? That stumped me for a bit while I was digesting the study published last year in The Canadian...


Want Better Sex? Mark Your Calendar.

It’s interesting to me how many patients who come to me with concerns about diminishing libido are there because of their husbands or long-time partners. These lucky women have a great relationship with a great person, and they don’t want...


Tips for a Stress-Free Holiday (Really!)

Yeah, I know. The last thing you need right now is another list of ways to avoid stress during the holidays. The mere thought of another list is stressful all by itself. I don’t cotton to holiday de-stress lists, either....


Getting Your Groove Back: Before Foreplay

One of the very first blog posts I published, even before MiddlesexMD was launched, was about receiving a bouquet from a patient. She and I had talked about her options for managing changes in her sexual response, and I’d recommended...


Making the Most of Time

I once knew a crusty old farmer who refused to acknowledge the existence of daylight savings time. Ask him the time during spring or summer, and he’d respond, “Do you want the real time?” To Robert, daylight savings time was...


The Big O (And We Don’t Mean Oprah!)

Orgasm. Such a complicated topic; so many questions, so few answers. But let’s focus on the most important point, which is, that for women, the biggest obstacle to experiencing orgasm is anxiety. How can anyone relax while having sex if...


When I Say I’m Hot…

Hot flashes. They’re the stereotypical symptom of menopause, the subject of T-shirts and mugs: “It’s not a hot flash, it’s a power surge.” But when you say to yourself or your partner, in an intimate moment, “I’m hot,” you want...


Our Secret Recipe for Sex after Menopause

The post title is just tongue-in-cheek, folks. A little health writing humor, poking a stick at the whole idea of health “secrets.” We don’t believe in keeping information about attaining good health secret. So here, today, long before going live...


Why Older Men Love Foreplay

We had a flurry of questions about foreplay -- or dealing with the lack of it -- awhile back, which led to a number of conversations within the MiddlesexMD team, but also between team members and their partners. This guest...


The Empty Nest Reset

It’s move-in weekend at the college in the town where I work, and seeing all those packed minivans crawl along the side streets, trying to find their way to the right dorm, makes me think of the parents who drove out...


The Recipe: Revisited, Reconfirmed

At MiddlesexMD, our approach to sex at midlife didn’t spring to life fully formed. In fact, it’s the result of a lot of thought and discussion about the kind of information women need during and after menopause to stay sexually...


Couples Therapy for (Older) Beginners

Many of the women I see in my practice have been with the same partner for years. These couples have made homes together, raised children together, weathered hard times and enjoyed happy moments together. And now—just as the pressures of...


Raging Hormones? Ways to Deal

In the last couple of posts we talked about the significant subset of women who suffer from debilitating emotional swings during the menopausal transition—and also about their loved ones who suffer right along with them. It’s a Catch-22. You truly...


Three Sex-Killing Bogeymen

The stroller is in mothballs, along with the Little League jersey and the Cub Scouts uniform. Just when the kids can brush their own teeth and maybe drive themselves to hockey practice, just when you thought the never-ending physical demands...


Normalizing Menopause in the Workplace

For our mothers, pregnancy was the workplace unmentionable. Once a married woman began to “show,” she was expected to leave her job and begin her new life as a stay-at-home wife and mother. Now, our daughters often have family leave...


"We are intended for wholeness and redemption and healing."

Ann McKnight with Dr. Barb Ann McKnight has extensive experience in clinical social work and therapy. Methods and approaches she's learned about and shared to benefit her patients are the Enneagram, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), mindfulness,...