Knowledge

As we get older and our hormone levels drop, we experience changes in our tissues, our sensitivities, and our responsiveness. If we understand these normal changes, we can keep our bodies and minds in shape for continued sexuality, and we can compensate when we need to. At this stage in our lives, we may be "high maintenance," but it's worth the effort! Our recipe for continued sexual health starts with Knowledge and continues with the other tabs, above, across the page.

Start to learn by clicking on any of the statements at right that "sound like you." If you experience — or suspect you may have — any of the conditions listed below, click to understand it more fully and learn what to do about it. There are definitely actions you can take to stay healthy!

First published 02/16/2010 Last updated 06/27/2011

Any of these conditions may affect your sex life now:

It might be hernia repair, a hysterectomy and menopause,
Some women reach midlife without ever experiencing strong arousal or satisfying sex.
Most of us have worked all our lives to develop a good body image--what a complicated concept!
Sexual trauma is, unfortunately, a history too many of us share. Every two minutes, in the U.S. alone, a woman is raped.
Deep pain with penetration, especially with thrusting, is often caused by pelvic problems, and should be explored with your doctor if it is...
Is your relationship unsafe? For many of us, that's not an easy question to answer. We each have basic rights for physical and emotional safety.
The most common reason for declining interest in sex among women at any age?
Vaginal dryness is a common obstacle to comfortable sex for midlife women. Most often, it's one of the changes we all experience with menopause.
When is your libido too low? It’s low if your lack of desire causes stress or unhappiness for you.
"It's like hitting a wall," say our patients with vaginismus. This is a condition in which the involuntary muscles of the vagina go into vaginal...
What, if anything, should we do about our sexual health if we have no sexual relationships? Midlife women are often without sex partners.
A vaginal discharge that some people think is kind of smelly, itching that can be light or furious, and irritation or pain are the key symptoms of...
A common source of pelvic and vaginal discomfort attends the "prolapse" or shifting of our pelvic organs after childbirth, hysterectomy, or with...
Pain in any part of your vulva -- the mons, outer or inner labia, the clitoris or vestibule, that cannot be attributed to any other cause, is called...
Midlife comes with aches, pains, limitations. We don't bounce the way we used to. Some of us have lost strength in our limbs.
If you’ve never had an orgasm, or have stopped having them, you are in good company: Women who enjoy sex, love their partners, and wonder, as you...
By midlife many of us have been in our relationships for decades, have endured ups and downs together.
At midlife many of us are dating, some of us starting to date again after many years with the same partner.

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