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As we get older and our hormone levels drop, we experience changes in our tissues, our sensitivities, and our responsiveness. If we understand these normal changes, we can keep our bodies and minds in shape for continued sexuality, and we can compensate when we need to. At this stage in our lives, we may be "high maintenance," but it's worth the effort! Our recipe for continued sexual health starts with Knowledge and continues with the other tabs, above, across the page.
Start to learn by clicking on any of the statements at right that "sound like you." If you experience — or suspect you may have — any of the conditions listed below, click to understand it more fully and learn what to do about it. There are definitely actions you can take to stay healthy!
First published 02/16/2010 Last updated 06/27/2011
Learn how your body's changes affect your sexuality.
Understanding what's changing can help you keep sex enjoyable.
Enhance comfort by caring for your vaginal and vulvar tissues.
Compensating for lower hormone levels means taking care of yourself.
Increase sensation in genital tissues.
Taking more time, energy, and attention can re-awaken our sensations.
Maintain tone in the pelvic floor muscles.
Exercising these muscles encourages circulation and strengthens orgasms.
Build intimate relationships.
Having emotional bonds is essential for good sex after 40.