Did you know that the whole idea behind MiddlesexMD is based on a recipe? You could call it the MiddlesexMD formula for really juicy sex. Officially, we call it “our recipe for women’s sexual health.”
We think our recipe is so important that our entire website is organized around what we’ve identified, after a lot of thought and research, as the five necessary ingredients for a satisfying love life at midlife. You can add your flavor of whipped cream and lingerie, but if those five ingredients aren’t in place, sex just won’t work very well.
These ingredients may be surprising (knowledge? emotional intimacy?), and some are unique to our stage of life (vaginal comfort, genital sensation, pelvic tone). We try to help you understand why they’re important and to give you tools and tips for understanding what they are and for incorporating them into your life.
Here’s a tool someone at a recent conference told us about; it reaches the same destination by a different path. It’s a fun quiz put together by the Association of Reproductive Health Professionals (ARHP). Sounds like place to get blood drawn, I know, but behind that bland façade is a sexy little quiz that reinforces a lot of the thinking behind our recipe.
To start, click on your age in the circle that says, “It [sex] could be better…” The questions cover a range of life issues, from physical health to libido to emotional well-being—because, as we’ve said, sex involves all our parts, including our psyche and our emotions.
While the assessment tool is meant to be light and fun, it also delivers good advice. Be honest with your answers (who’s looking, anyway?), and you’ll get some targeted, useful information to improve your sex life. And maybe the rest of your life.
You’ll discover, for example, that about 20 percent of women (of all ages) have a hard time getting turned on, and that it’s one of the most common sexual complaints. That a woman’s sexual response is complicated and affected by things like self-image and stress. (Click on the right-side box that explains how men and women are different.) The tool reassures you that most women can’t orgasm with penis-in-vagina sex alone, but need clitoral stimulation as well.
Nothing earth-shaking, but some nice reinforcement and some good tips. Take the quiz. Read the results, then dig around in MiddlesexMD for more in-depth information. We have lots of information about pain during sex. And we’ve certainly explored the female sexual response cycle. We’ve clarified the difference between moisturizers and lubricants, and we sell them both in our shop.
So, use the assessment as a fun way to pinpoint areas you might need to work on in your sex life, and then dig into our blog and website for the meat and potatoes.